Babsy B Tip: Develop Long-distance Love

How to help your infant or toddler develop relationships with family members from across long distances?

Bring out the photos of those who are important to your child and you. Include pictures of your child and you. Give your child some company in the crib with photos you’ve posted on the nursery wall.

Your child will practice sounds and words while having conversations with those familiar faces. And your child is likely to feel that warm comfort before and after sleep times.

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Babsy B Tip: Skype & Facetime: Who’s in Charge?

Who’s in charge when your toddler and you make that Facetime or Skype call to family and friends?

A toddler pays attention the first few moments of greeting. Then, your toddler hasn’t a clue what to say or do next. In the absence of direction, your little one either acts out or runs off.

Plan ahead to help your toddler talk and interact around a picture book, puzzle, a nursery rhyme or song, a toy of interest, or to talk about a particular recent experience.

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WOW! Word: TOLERATE

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1.You tolerated that shot without a tear!

  1. We tolerate loud noises when big machines are doing their work.
  1. Look how you tolerate the noisy distractions around you!

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Babsy B Tip: Double Shift

Why does your infant or toddler get so plum-tuckered-out and need each and every one of those power naps all day long?

Your child’s holding down two full-time jobs! One’s a steep physical workout. The other, though far less obvious, is an intense brain workout. Baby must hear every sound you and others have said.

Your child’s also learning who to count on––who will say all those language sounds. That’s you!

The Babsy B Board Books are designed to help you  read aloud and talk every day to ensure your child’s brain gets that heavy workout!

Your baby is also learning that a nap of rest and sleep gives energy to begin that next double shift.

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Ask Babs: Encouraging Openness

Q: How can I encourage my son to be open with me and know that I’ll love him unconditionally no matter what?

A: Psychologist Marshall Rosenberg and numerous others have devoted their lives to studying and responding to this kind of question. That said, my study and daily practice of the skills from Rosenberg’s communication strategies leads me to want to share here some bits as I understand and find the strategies effective and helpful in daily living.

Whether a child is 21 or any age, I’ve learned that it’s difficult as a parent to hear that my child is feeling anything other than happiness. When I hear otherwise, It’s easy to call up old behaviors, ones that judge or try to fix the situation. I’ve learned that using empathic words is far more effective in building strong connecting bonds.

Our children expect unconditional love from parents. It’s a bond that’s viewed by as being at risk when they hear words or sense (voice tone, body language, facial expressions) that suggest to them––for even a second––that this unconditional parental love is at risk. From a place of fear and self-protection, they may shut down to sharing with us. They feel a need to protect their parent-child bond. That need is so great that silence may feel safer.

What words or actions from us could possibly suggest to our child that it’s safer to be silent? I’m thinking here of times when my parental “go to” has been from my “fixing mode,” times when I’ve said words of evaluation/judgment. Times when I’ve forgotten to put on my active listening ears and respond with empathic words. With a few such “risky” experiences under their belts, my kids may choose that silence.

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WOW! Word of the Week: RELAX

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  1. You look relaxed in those clothes!
  2. You can take a relaxing bath before bed.
  3. Let’s go relax and read a book.
  4. Taking a walk can be a great kind of relaxation.
  5. Where would you like to relax today?

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Babsy B Tip: Housing Your Child’s Library, Part 2

Reading Head Start

Shelve books with spines out so that little hands can select books.

Space bricks or similarly heavy objects as book ends, so that books stay upright.

Your child is learning how to care for books and to treasure book ownership.

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WOW! Word of the Week: EMBARRASS

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  1. Why do you think she felt embarrassed about her socks?
  2. I didn’t mean to embarrass you.
  3. Why did that situation feel embarrassing to you?
  4. What’s another time when you felt embarrassed?
  5. I like how you tried not to embarrass your sister about having her pacifier.

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Babsy B Tip: Books, Books, and more Books

Reading Head Start: Housing Your Child’s Library

Put a box or basket of books in every room and in the bathroom.

Keep a container of books in the car.

Your child is learning to use books to entertain and occupy self.

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Ask Babs: Toddler Time Enhanced

Q: How can I interact with my toddler more and on a regular basis?

A: Play a Senses Game: Listen, Listen! Sounds All Around! This is a fun and interactive game for you and your infant or toddler to play at any time, no matter where you may be. This listening game helps to build your child’s awareness of sounds. And if he’s pre-verbal, you will take your turn and his.

To begin the game, say enthusiastically, “Let’s play a game. Let’s listen and name the sounds we hear. Ready? Let’s play!”

You’ll go first and say, “Listen! Listen! I hear a sound!” Then model the use of a complete sentence to name a sound you hear. For example, you might say, “I hear a car whizzing by!” Then tell your infant or toddler it’s her turn.

Ask her to listen and name a sound she hears. If she says one word or any approximation of a word, you’ll put that word in a sentence, to say something, like: “Oh! You heard a dog bark! Yes! Okay, it’s my turn now.”

At other times, extend this interactive game to play these different kinds of Senses Games:

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